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What does the science say?

The laws of physics say that what you make important to you through your actions, words, and deeds will continue to show itself in your life.

Suppose the paradigm in which you are living your entire life is based on a flawed or incongruent fear-based collection of beliefs, or a paradigm.

In that case, it will influence every event, person, thought, and interaction that you encounter.

You walk around with that perspective in your DNA. Consciousness loves you; you are an ocean in the drop of consciousness (thank you, Rumi). Thoughts are simply the result of the beliefs you hold, which ultimately reflect the paradigms that you live by.

Have you been feeling overwhelmed lately?

Have you been feeling overwhelmed lately?

Have you noticed at times that it can be so easy to get overwhelmed when the environment of the world at large is shifting so quickly? So much contrast and intensity! I’ve often felt it myself, and I still do what I need to, to stay grounded.

I go for two walks per day, instead of one. Playing with the dog always helps me ground. And I often just phone someone I love to talk with, about something that we share.

It’s still such a powerful time to become a master of dancing with Infinite Wisdom directly, because so much wisdom is asked of us. Quantum leaps can be made as we develop the muscle of the ability to stay in our hearts, and therefore stay in “the flow.” ⁠

As each drop in the ocean changes, the ocean itself also changes. Just by doing what it takes to find peace inside oneself, and to be catalyzed to creativity instantly, affects the whole of humanity. I am so impassioned by the knowledge that we can create flow, community, compassion, and evolution in the way civilization interacts, and how we treat each other and ourselves.

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Soul family is definitely a thing…

Soul family is definitely a thing…

I remember thinking to myself in high school, and until I was about 44 years old: “Hey, where are the people who get me?” Paradoxically, I didn’t realize that needing to be “seen” or “gotten” was really just me chasing my own tail. We all change so much every day, every hour that, honestly, that would be a full-time job.

HOWEVER… there are some characteristics that I have noticed in those with whom I love to play, and I wonder if you have, too?

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Entanglement with others is overrated

Entanglement with others is overrated

Your heart’s knowing matters so much.

When you marry someone, marry because you “know” somehow that they are a worthy playmate on this imperfect adventure called Life.

When you stay with someone, stay because your deepest intuition feels a “YES!,” whether you feel great or even when something feels off. Then be mindful of your own mood, take space when you need it, and have important conversations when possible. That’s why mastering your own clarity on your journey is so important.

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One word… Change!

One word… Change!

I thought that I was actually pretty good with moving through change, but the other night I realized that maybe I’m not as good at change as I thought. Big and new ideas are coming forward; my heart’s calling is LOUD.

The following morning, yet another big change happened, and I found myself both looking forward and transmuting the energy of the “shoulda, coulda, wouldas” at the same time. When that happens, I need space for it all to process so that I don’t force myself out of the unfamiliarity too fast. I mean, it’s the one constant, so wanting things to stand still is a surefire way to go backward, given that life is always expanding forward. I just know that everything right now is speeding up. Incongruent processes, relationships and projects are being rewired, or let go at a pace greater than ever before.

Do you have a personal operating system that allows you to flow through it all, and experience results that feel expansive?

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A perspective: On hurricanes, birth, and being better…

A perspective: On hurricanes, birth, and being better…

Storms are major reset points. A time to cleanse, a time to have compassion, a time to be present to the ways in which we are all the same, instead of arguing about the differences among us. With Hurricane Ian, we currently have before us yet another opportunity to exercise our ability to choose to be good, do good, and have humanity for another. I have friends who were in the thick of things, lost everything, and will have to re-build. They come from every walk of life.

Politics, points of view and opinion are constructs and frameworks through which to view the world. The heart is not a construct. The heart purifies the view when the heart is the eyes from which we are perceiving. As I went for a bike ride the other day, I saw a calf being born in the middle of a field within five minutes of leaving the house. The cow was cleaning the calf, as it tried to get up and walk. Love is an instinct, foundational to life.

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An insight about love from my talk last week

An insight about love from my talk last week

Have you noticed that humanity’s old ways of Awakening are no longer aligned with the speed at which we are being asked to embody ourselves?

The time for living in analyzing, in finding a guru, or in giving our power away to anyone or anything is over. We are actually designed to be our own gurus.

Did you know that our collective, powerful desires for more meaning, fulfillment and depth in our lives are causing us to find new ways to evolve, so we can keep up with the speed of the answers that are waiting for us?

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There‘s a lot going on in the world right now… can you feel it?

There‘s a lot going on in the world right now… can you feel it?

Do you tend to forget that what you are feeling in your body, and what’s reflected in your mind, is not necessarily about you?

Have you been wondering what is going on in the world (behind the scenes energetically, and in the cosmos), and how it affects your relationships, your mood, and all the good stuff life is made of? And genuinely wondering how the heck to transcend being affected by any of it???

Gorgeous one… what if it begins with upping the ante on the question,and instead ask:

How can I be an Agent for Change?

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An insight about love from my talk last week

An insight about love from my talk last week

I understood more deeply that asking “WHY” love is not happening for you is a way to stay endlessly stuck in a cycle of intellectual examination, and evidence for your perceived lack of deservingness.

WHAT IF… all it takes is curiosity on the adventure?

After all, Life has already landed the answers to HOW loved you are, and all the various ways that it can be expressed.

WHAT IF… all it takes is vigilance for the answers that are waiting for you?

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Let’s talk about FLOW…

Let’s talk about FLOW…

I wanted to share something from the depths of my heart on the subject of FLOW…

You see it’s not just about getting out of your own way. It’s about embodying the operating system for thriving. You can use skills and tools to temporarily get out of the way of your own flow, but the two are not the same thing.

I watch much of humanity asking to feel better from their situation. That’s easy enough to do. There are tools and tricks all day long to do that. Embodiment however, is a whole other animal.

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This doorway matters a lot…

This doorway matters a lot…

What if you’re just a cosmic three-year-old, Aditya, here to play with the resources on Earth, to use all of your abilities, and to expand upon the beauty that already is?

I’m not joking. I first started asking about the meaning of life when I was seven years old. A little precocious, I know, but I was wondering who we were and what the purpose of “all this” was.

What if the entire way you have done what you did now exists for all time in “the field,” and can be accessed metaphysically by all. Likewise, you are able to receive wisdom from everyone else’s experience. Pretty cool, huh?

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More of this… yes, please!

More of this… yes, please!

Two days ago, I was feeling overwhelmed in ways I cannot describe.

I love my staff, my clients, my family, but sometimes I forget two things:

(1) That carrying and caring are two very different things, and

(2) That people have their own capacity to find their way home… not my circus, not my clowns, unless they ask me for assistance.

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Is this you?

Is this you?

I cannot emphasize enough, Aditya, how important it is these days to choose your words well.

PRACTICE IT! MASTER IT! BE AN EXAMPLE! Leadership 101.

These are times when it is so easy to be taken out by the smallest conversation, the tiniest trigger, the most seemingly obscure event. The other day, I could have easily engaged someone else’s upset, and had a feeling of wanting to defend. I chose not to go there.

Why?

Because I realized that when someone in my life is having a really bad day, and I desperately want to fix it, my words and actions demonstrate and reflect my own discomfort, or that they need fixing, thus conveying to my friend/client/loved one that they are broken.

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I was so angry and felt so alone…

I was so angry and felt so alone…

Today I want to share with you a personal account of how epi-genetics works. It’s a recent “OUCH and YAY” full-circle moment I had.

Upon awakening one morning, my body did not feel that hot. It felt like I had a dream that put me into PTSD. My spine felt compressed and my body was afraid. So, instead of engaging the fear, I got curious.

I used an anti-inflammatory light therapy that I love to use to get myself to a place where I could at least be present. I did that by continually answering the question, “How can I feel a little bit better now?”

Doing my best to be a champion of my mood and frequency, I then put some CBD on the spots that ached.

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You were not born to fit in with anyone else…

You were not born to fit in with anyone else…

I wanted to share with you how grateful I am to my colleague Shannon, for my new favorite question:

“What is the most fulfilling thing I can do, with the least amount of effort, that uses my abilities the most, while making the biggest difference and has me waking up inspired every day?”

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It never gets old!

It never gets old!

What a day full of rain showed me as I walked up to the top of a hill to do my daily evening practice…

Once I was at the top of the hill, I noticed in the distance were the mountains to the left and clouds that had spent a whole week here, were moving away. The sun was peeping through as it was going down. The rays of light were spectacular on the mountains.

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A little tree shaking…

A little tree shaking…

I used to be VERY teacher-like (my Mom was a teacher, so I come by it honestly).

I was just used to it; I never questioned being that way. However, I didn’t realize what it cost me, and that was MY POWER.

It put me above people. It looked as though I had it all handled, and I didn’t. As a result, I also attracted people who wanted to give their power away to me.

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An important note in these intense times. Hope it assists!

An important note in these intense times. Hope it assists!

Ever wish you didn’t think so much?

I had a very heady conversation with a dear friend recently, and it was all about being afraid to take action on an inspiration. They spent lots of time trying to figure out “WHY” their dreams were calling to them, so their mind could be at peace before they took action.

Oh, my goodness, did I ever have compassion! I used to analyze everything. I thought it would keep me safe. With everything going on in the world right now, every once in a while that habit creeps back in. But it does not keep me safe; it just keeps me in my head, and history is the only thing in my head. I desire to be surprised and delighted by answers not yet imagined.

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Working hard to deserve it is a distraction…

Working hard to deserve it is a distraction…

Picture Credits - Jennifer Hough “You don’t have to work hard to deserve beautiful sunsets.Or to deserve this life.”- Jennifer Hough Before you go to bed tonight, think about this. Go and watch the sunset, and really take it in. Experience it. If it’s cloudy, take a...

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The last few days have been intense…

The last few days have been intense…

Have you ever felt overwhelmed and just thought, “What the…?” I did yesterday. It seriously doesn’t happen often, so the feeling stood out.

I was detoxing the past few days, but didn’t realize it.

Not only that, I had a day of meetings.

I had to have two big-girl conversations (the kind that I dread) with two people I care about.

Oh, and relationship stuff is always evolving… so there’s that.

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I cried. Just saying.

I cried. Just saying.

I realized after watching Matthew McConaughey’s talk this week about the place where he grew up (Uvalde, Texas), that I had still been processing the shooting.

This is not an email about guns, nor is it a political one either.

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