Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?


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Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Well, you might be surprised to hear me say absolutely not.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not about deliberately forcing ourselves to do things that feel awful.

It’s just that I hear so many people saying… “only do it if it feels good“.

Here’s the issue with that:

On the immediate level, lots of things feel good. Certain food, saying yes to obligations, and on and on. That doesn’t mean that those same decisions are in the highest good from the greater view of your life. Sometimes, we will do what seems familiar and ‘same ole’, in lieu of something that is important but challenging.

We often equate ‘feeling good’ with easy, or familiar and they are not the same things.

So many people are asking me about the TED Talk. It was awesome but it was difficult, challenging and life changing.

Adam Grant, author and researcher in his recent book ‘Hidden Potential’ cites the idea that people who have the most fulfilling and meaningful lives are always looking to learn and grow because it feeds their ability to become more and create more. Hence more fun. I concur.

That is what happened from doing my TED Talk!

I DID NOT LOVE IT, IT OFTEN DID NOT FEEL GOOD BUT IT WAS EXPANSIVE, FULL OF RICH EXPERIENCES AND PROVIDED ME AN OPPORTUNITY TO BECOME MORE OF MYSELF.

And I love that far more than being comfortable.

Biggest hugs for your expansive, most rich and fulfilling journey!

With love,
Jennifer
xoxoxo


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