I always thought that I had to find the right person…

I know I’ve shared this before, but I think it’s worth revisiting. Thinking about my journey, I regret none of my previous relationships. Studying the laws of physics has given me so much clarity around my time with dear partners from the past.

I always thought I had to find the right person. Nope. Not about that. They find you. And that is based on a few important shifts in thinking that changed my life.

1. LOVE JUST ISlove is in and through everything, available at all times. There’s nothing to create as, if it really is love, then it’s already unconditional. Love that feels conditional is actually more about acceptance or approval.

2. LOVE IS ALWAYS AVAILABLE, AND IT DOESN’T COME FROM SOMEONE ELSEif we can’t generate appreciation and connection to our own beauty, others cannot see it in us either. They don’t ‘love’ us, and therefore we love them. They see in us what we’ve generated about life, our environment and ourselves. Period. Nobody completes you.

3. WE DON’T FALL IN LOVE, WE ACCESS ITwhen we find someone willing to go on the adventure down the wormhole of love, it’s fun! Since love just ‘is’, and is all around and available, we’re really seeking someone willing to collect evidence of the beauty of life, be in love with themselves and then go on an adventure with us. From that frequency, we’re available to love. When we need the other person to love us to feel happy, we’re looking for approval or appreciation without doing the work ourselves which never leads to the experience of feeling the love of the Universe.

4. ACCURACYwhen we understand the laws of physics, we often ‘relanguage’ common phrases like “I love you. In using that phrase, we’re actually saying “When I’m with you I’m reminded of my appreciation of life, myself and my blessings but I don’t need you to be present to that deliciousness; you enhance my ability to be in the presence of how much the Universe loves me.”

Whenever I shift my thinking, taking responsibility for feeling disconnected within myself, instantly my sweetie and I can go deep because he is no longer responsible for making me happy. Anything someone else does to make my life better is then fully received, unconditionally, and love is present.

Nobody said relationships are easy but, man, they certainly generate so much deep and new thinking which is an adventure in and of itself!

I hope this makes a difference in your life today and catalyzes you to make some small, or big, changes.

I feel deeply blessed to support you in the journey back to the most meaningful level of love … you are part of my blessed life!

With love,



Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Well, you might be surprised to hear me say absolutely not.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not about deliberately forcing ourselves to do things that feel awful.

It’s just that I hear so many people saying… “only do it if it feels good”.

Here’s the issue with that:

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Fear does an interesting thing to our brains

Fear does an interesting thing to our brains

Fear does an interesting thing to our brains.

I was listening to a brilliant podcast a few days ago which my husband reminded me about. Although they didn’t talk about this specifically, it struck me how important it is to understand how our brains work. In understanding this, I’m able to follow my knowing and feel connected to clarity, instead of being manipulated by noise which can only happen if I’m in fear; it’s so easy to be in fear these days, don’t you think?

Fight or flight creates an interesting shift in the brain causing us to relate to those who disagree with our viewpoint as the “other”, and there are those who want to manipulate others in order to protect themselves.

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The key to thriving is…

The key to thriving is…

A key to thriving is remembering that doing this is actually important.

It’s ‘nothing’.

That’s the thing, doing nothing is doing something.I’m sure you’ve sometimes tried to keep pushing through a project when life is showing you the harder and longer you push, the more unproductive things get, right?

I’m so guilty of feeling invincible or, put another way, stubbornly carrying on instead of being present to what life is showing, or sometimes commanding, me to do.

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