You were not born to fit in with anyone else…

Picture Credits – Jeannie Selda

“You were given feelings to let you know when
you are not being who you came here to be.

Jennifer Hough

I wanted to share with you how grateful I am to my colleague Shannon, for my new favorite question:

“What is the most fulfilling thing I can do, with the least amount of effort, that uses my abilities the most, while making the biggest difference and has me waking up inspired every day?”

We spend time and emotional energy (even lifetimes) trying to belong to our families, cultures, or workplaces. We morph ourselves to fit in. We try to do what others expect of us. It’s painful, and for good reason.

It’s because we were born with unique skills, trajectories, personalities, gifts, and reasons for being alive. Expectations of others likely have nothing to do with your answer to the question above, much like mine.

In a “Survival Operating System,” the goal is to belong in society and with each other. It is about acceptance, approval, being enough, validation, and lovability by other fallible humans. Survival always offers us solutions that feel contractive instead of expansive.

People judge me all the time. And they may judge you. When you put yourself out there, people have all sorts of opinions about you.

All I can tell you is that I do my best and then I learn. And then I do better. I also surround myself with people who “see” me. I am thankful that they will definitely call me out when I’m going down a path that is not toward the answer to this new favorite question of mine.

Following my bliss is awesome, beautiful, scary, luscious, rich and others have lots to say about it. The great thing is that now I concern myself only with what I am creating, rather than peoples’ opinions about it.

I’m human.

The people I love see my foibles and have compassion; it’s all about learning for me, and how can I live in more flow, more connection. That requires more vulnerability to myself, and humility. Oh, yes, humility!

That we are here to work hard at fitting in and that one day, if we try hard enough at changing ourselves for others, it will all just come together and we will be fulfilled? It doesn’t work, does it.

The actions taken in resonance with your purpose cause an expansive feeling because you are aligned with the exact potentials that the Universe sees for you.

Sometimes that journey brings up the stuff that is in the way. Consider that looking at those patterns is all part of living in more alignment, and therefore in flow and fulfillment.

It’s great to have a little help from someone who is on that journey who is a relentless champion of your awesomeness. I’ve had many of those people along the way. That’s why I love to pay it forward.

With love,

P.S. Have you joined our community yet? Your Soul family is waiting for you in The Agents of Awakening community, come play with us for 14-days free.

“AOA feels like a true home base for me. I can share myself fully knowing that it may help another’s journey. This is a space of so much love. The conversations, the witnessing of another’s journey is such a gift to bring forward to yourself and others. It is a powerful platform of like-minded people who support you and your growth. The teachings are so valuable. We are thriving here…..come join the ride!”
~ Jeri Matera, Florida, USA



Greetings for this new year!

Greetings for this new year!

This past year offered so much clarity and contrast, bringing ‘the dark into the light’, revealing it both in the world, and in my own life.

As we’re shutting the door on the closing year, let’s declare it complete, with great gratitude.

I know I’m so thankful for all that came to light, making me laser beam focused on this coming year. I’m looking at ways to assist humanity more creatively than I’ve ever considered before, and all while simplifying as much as possible. Phew!

Our choices are clear. We either continue arguing for sides and trying to fix the past, or start engaging, as the Heaven on Earth Construction Crew, towards finding solutions for our lives, communities, and the wider world.

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Happy Merry Everything to you…

Happy Merry Everything to you…

After listening to the news of a dear friend really struggling at this time of year, and some news I was aware of another colleague who was deeply depressed, it became pretty apparent what I wanted to share with you at this intense time of year.

This time of year can be so beautiful and yet it can also be challenging as there are several coinciding significant events.

1. The Winter Solstice: which is an opportunity to look at our choices, restart, and go within to remember ourselves as we move into the next major phase of the year.

2. A major figure’s birthday: Jeshuah represents compassion and forgiveness in the world, Christ consciousness being about unconditional love.

3. The End of a Yearly Cycle and the Beginning of a New One: These combined focus points allow us access to the love needed to move through just about anything, if we so choose.

At the same time, everything that is incomplete, ready to be transmuted, or unnecessary for the year to come will surely reveal itself.

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When things change…

When things change…

Well, my old backpack died after 13 years of climbing mountains, going to swim with dolphins, and chasing rainbows in Hawaii. It’s the beige backpack. I’m thinking of all the people whom we’ve taken on Wide Awakening Adventures and program trips (including you!)

Honestly, letting it go was hard as I happily remembered being with Cathy in Bimini, Vikki in Italy, Nika in Asheville, Amy in Abaco, Jenny in Uxbridge, and so many more special moments. That backpack was a constant companion for all of it. When I threw it in the trash, I really felt I should have a ceremony, SO I DID!

It feels like everything is up to leave this year … clearing the decks with the Winter Solstice, Jeshua’s birthday coming, New Year celebrations, and all.

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