You were not born to fit in with anyone else…

Picture Credits – Jeannie Selda

“You were given feelings to let you know when
you are not being who you came here to be.

Jennifer Hough

I wanted to share with you how grateful I am to my colleague Shannon, for my new favorite question:

“What is the most fulfilling thing I can do, with the least amount of effort, that uses my abilities the most, while making the biggest difference and has me waking up inspired every day?”

We spend time and emotional energy (even lifetimes) trying to belong to our families, cultures, or workplaces. We morph ourselves to fit in. We try to do what others expect of us. It’s painful, and for good reason.

It’s because we were born with unique skills, trajectories, personalities, gifts, and reasons for being alive. Expectations of others likely have nothing to do with your answer to the question above, much like mine.

In a “Survival Operating System,” the goal is to belong in society and with each other. It is about acceptance, approval, being enough, validation, and lovability by other fallible humans. Survival always offers us solutions that feel contractive instead of expansive.

People judge me all the time. And they may judge you. When you put yourself out there, people have all sorts of opinions about you.

All I can tell you is that I do my best and then I learn. And then I do better. I also surround myself with people who “see” me. I am thankful that they will definitely call me out when I’m going down a path that is not toward the answer to this new favorite question of mine.

Following my bliss is awesome, beautiful, scary, luscious, rich and others have lots to say about it. The great thing is that now I concern myself only with what I am creating, rather than peoples’ opinions about it.

I’m human.

The people I love see my foibles and have compassion; it’s all about learning for me, and how can I live in more flow, more connection. That requires more vulnerability to myself, and humility. Oh, yes, humility!

That we are here to work hard at fitting in and that one day, if we try hard enough at changing ourselves for others, it will all just come together and we will be fulfilled? It doesn’t work, does it.

The actions taken in resonance with your purpose cause an expansive feeling because you are aligned with the exact potentials that the Universe sees for you.

Sometimes that journey brings up the stuff that is in the way. Consider that looking at those patterns is all part of living in more alignment, and therefore in flow and fulfillment.

It’s great to have a little help from someone who is on that journey who is a relentless champion of your awesomeness. I’ve had many of those people along the way. That’s why I love to pay it forward.

With love,

P.S. Have you joined our community yet? Your Soul family is waiting for you in The Agents of Awakening community, come play with us for 14-days free.

“AOA feels like a true home base for me. I can share myself fully knowing that it may help another’s journey. This is a space of so much love. The conversations, the witnessing of another’s journey is such a gift to bring forward to yourself and others. It is a powerful platform of like-minded people who support you and your growth. The teachings are so valuable. We are thriving here…..come join the ride!”
~ Jeri Matera, Florida, USA



It never gets old!

It never gets old!

What a day full of rain showed me as I walked up to the top of a hill to do my daily evening practice…

Once I was at the top of the hill, I noticed in the distance were the mountains to the left and clouds that had spent a whole week here, were moving away. The sun was peeping through as it was going down. The rays of light were spectacular on the mountains.

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A little tree shaking…

A little tree shaking…

I used to be VERY teacher-like (my Mom was a teacher, so I come by it honestly).

I was just used to it; I never questioned being that way. However, I didn’t realize what it cost me, and that was MY POWER.

It put me above people. It looked as though I had it all handled, and I didn’t. As a result, I also attracted people who wanted to give their power away to me.

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An important note in these intense times. Hope it assists!

An important note in these intense times. Hope it assists!

Ever wish you didn’t think so much?

I had a very heady conversation with a dear friend recently, and it was all about being afraid to take action on an inspiration. They spent lots of time trying to figure out “WHY” their dreams were calling to them, so their mind could be at peace before they took action.

Oh, my goodness, did I ever have compassion! I used to analyze everything. I thought it would keep me safe. With everything going on in the world right now, every once in a while that habit creeps back in. But it does not keep me safe; it just keeps me in my head, and history is the only thing in my head. I desire to be surprised and delighted by answers not yet imagined.

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