You were not born to fit in with anyone else…

Picture Credits – Jeannie Selda

“You were given feelings to let you know when
you are not being who you came here to be.

Jennifer Hough

I wanted to share with you how grateful I am to my colleague Shannon, for my new favorite question:

“What is the most fulfilling thing I can do, with the least amount of effort, that uses my abilities the most, while making the biggest difference and has me waking up inspired every day?”

We spend time and emotional energy (even lifetimes) trying to belong to our families, cultures, or workplaces. We morph ourselves to fit in. We try to do what others expect of us. It’s painful, and for good reason.

It’s because we were born with unique skills, trajectories, personalities, gifts, and reasons for being alive. Expectations of others likely have nothing to do with your answer to the question above, much like mine.

In a “Survival Operating System,” the goal is to belong in society and with each other. It is about acceptance, approval, being enough, validation, and lovability by other fallible humans. Survival always offers us solutions that feel contractive instead of expansive.

People judge me all the time. And they may judge you. When you put yourself out there, people have all sorts of opinions about you.

All I can tell you is that I do my best and then I learn. And then I do better. I also surround myself with people who “see” me. I am thankful that they will definitely call me out when I’m going down a path that is not toward the answer to this new favorite question of mine.

Following my bliss is awesome, beautiful, scary, luscious, rich and others have lots to say about it. The great thing is that now I concern myself only with what I am creating, rather than peoples’ opinions about it.

I’m human.

The people I love see my foibles and have compassion; it’s all about learning for me, and how can I live in more flow, more connection. That requires more vulnerability to myself, and humility. Oh, yes, humility!

That we are here to work hard at fitting in and that one day, if we try hard enough at changing ourselves for others, it will all just come together and we will be fulfilled? It doesn’t work, does it.

The actions taken in resonance with your purpose cause an expansive feeling because you are aligned with the exact potentials that the Universe sees for you.

Sometimes that journey brings up the stuff that is in the way. Consider that looking at those patterns is all part of living in more alignment, and therefore in flow and fulfillment.

It’s great to have a little help from someone who is on that journey who is a relentless champion of your awesomeness. I’ve had many of those people along the way. That’s why I love to pay it forward.

With love,

P.S. Have you joined our community yet? Your Soul family is waiting for you in The Agents of Awakening community, come play with us for 14-days free.

“AOA feels like a true home base for me. I can share myself fully knowing that it may help another’s journey. This is a space of so much love. The conversations, the witnessing of another’s journey is such a gift to bring forward to yourself and others. It is a powerful platform of like-minded people who support you and your growth. The teachings are so valuable. We are thriving here…..come join the ride!”
~ Jeri Matera, Florida, USA



Just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean it can’t flow 💓…

Just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean it can’t flow 💓…

Just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean it can’t flow…

Since the beginning of 2024, I have been watching myself going through a patch where everything that wasn’t handled, cleaned up or in alignment is coming up to leave, be healed or full circled.

And these are big things, not little things… my health, and realigning with business things and love-related stuff. Yep, three major areas.

It could be overwhelming if I judged it. And trust me, it’s a lot. And it’s very real.

So how to move through these times …

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It seems scary to go through change…

It seems scary to go through change…

It seems scary to go through change. For me, just as much as anyone else.The question is, which part is scared? It’s the part that has to die for the expanded version to become the new you, able to sustain the dream you’re dreaming.

Our true infinite soul never dies, so YOU are not afraid to die, but rather the part of you that feels comfy, familiar and predictable.

Somehow, for me personally, distinguishing between the true ME and the identities (aspects of my personality) that are trying to protect me gives me a little solace and lessens my need for courage.

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Permanent shifts in your cells and what it takes…

Permanent shifts in your cells and what it takes…

The topic of shifting your default way of being, is near and dear to me because I realized I take it for granted that people fully understand it but have realized they don’t. I really appreciated a recent conversation with a member of our community. It brought home to me that most people don’t relate to permanent shifts because either they don’t believe they’re possible, or feel what they have is their lot in life.

Actually, this is where my parents were. I probably could do it a lot better, but I can’t have that, that quantum leaping thing. Do you know what I mean Aditya ?

When I look at people who effortlessly receive abundance, they seem to have the DNA of being able to dance with money in a way you’ve never experienced. How do you make that permanent shift?

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