I know I’ve shared this before, but I think it’s worth revisiting. Thinking about my journey, I regret none of my previous relationships. Studying the laws of physics has given me so much clarity around my time with dear partners from the past.
I always thought I had to find the right person. Nope. Not about that. They find you. And that is based on a few important shifts in thinking that changed my life.
1. LOVE JUST IS – love is in and through everything, available at all times. There’s nothing to create as, if it really is love, then it’s already unconditional. Love that feels conditional is actually more about acceptance or approval.
2. LOVE IS ALWAYS AVAILABLE, AND IT DOESN’T COME FROM SOMEONE ELSE – if we can’t generate appreciation and connection to our own beauty, others cannot see it in us either. They don’t ‘love’ us, and therefore we love them. They see in us what we’ve generated about life, our environment and ourselves. Period. Nobody completes you.
3. WE DON’T FALL IN LOVE, WE ACCESS IT – when we find someone willing to go on the adventure down the wormhole of love, it’s fun! Since love just ‘is’, and is all around and available, we’re really seeking someone willing to collect evidence of the beauty of life, be in love with themselves and then go on an adventure with us. From that frequency, we’re available to love. When we need the other person to love us to feel happy, we’re looking for approval or appreciation without doing the work ourselves which never leads to the experience of feeling the love of the Universe.
4. ACCURACY – when we understand the laws of physics, we often ‘relanguage’ common phrases like “I love you“. In using that phrase, we’re actually saying “When I’m with you I’m reminded of my appreciation of life, myself and my blessings but I don’t need you to be present to that deliciousness; you enhance my ability to be in the presence of how much the Universe loves me.”
Whenever I shift my thinking, taking responsibility for feeling disconnected within myself, instantly my sweetie and I can go deep because he is no longer responsible for making me happy. Anything someone else does to make my life better is then fully received, unconditionally, and love is present.
Nobody said relationships are easy but, man, they certainly generate so much deep and new thinking which is an adventure in and of itself!
I hope this makes a difference in your life today and catalyzes you to make some small, or big, changes.
I feel deeply blessed to support you in the journey back to the most meaningful level of love … you are part of my blessed life!
