“Co-creativity is so much more fun than co-dependence.
And essential in times of great change.”
– Jennifer Hough
A LITTLE TREE SHAKE THIS MORNING?
I had a client ask me last night, “When are all these challenges and triggers going to end so we can get back to normal?”. Newsflash. This is our new normal. So much change is being catalyzed these days, and if you get into emergency mode, it is easy to want to protect yourself and others, to hide, to “carry” your family, or those you love or even yourself.
Here’s something to consider this morning: Just because you’re there for others, doesn’t mean you are necessarily helping them. It depends on whether you’re giving from your overflow and your inspiration, or you are “carrying” them. It may even be that you’re not authentically trying to help them; maybe, just maybe, you’re trying to make your own self feel better because you don’t like the way they’re being or behaving.
I have most certainly carried people I care about at some point in my life. It’s as though I thought that I had the power to make someone else happy. It is so clear to me at this point that no one can make anyone else happy. In fact, doing that can leave the other person(s) powerless to do it for themselves.
I used to try to do that with many friends and boyfriends. I also used to do that with my stepdaughter.
Eventually, the people we love will have to break away to reset the relationship, because inside each of us, we innately know that true, authentic fulfillment can’t be dependent on another.
I’m busy this morning seeing the beauty and love around me in the form of my environment, my body, and the people I love.
Wanna join me?