The cost of being right!

Picture Credits – Jeannie Selda

“The issue is never the issue …
that you make it the issue, is the issue.

Jennifer Hough

Recently, while on a flight, I had a great discussion with a lovely woman whose perspective on life is very different from mine. In short, she suffers a lot and is angry most of the time. The perceived reasons for her upset are all outside herself and, although she tried super hard to convince me it was because of all the messed up people out there, alas, she didn’t win!

As you may know, I’m a relentless champion of deeper truths and higher conversations and, at this time of year, I thought I’d share this as you, or your friends, may need to hear it.

The Cost of Being Right

  • Be aware, others may no longer listen to you because it feels as though you’ve placed yourself above them, separating yourself from them.
  • You may shut down the space in which someone shares information which helps you better understand the situation.
  • Potentially sacrificing intimacy on every level.

The Benefits of Seeking to Understand Before You Seek to Be Understood

  • You show respect and interest in who they are and their position.
  • Allow the space for an intelligent and co-creative exchange.
  • You exemplify a different way of communicating which may impact how the other person chooses to communicate.

These simple things can change the world.

We are all Agents of Awakening and members of the Heaven on Earth Construction Crew!

Whether you’re a company president, a team leader, a dad, a teenager or a visionary of something world changing – or maybe all of them! – please be vigilant about what you’re sending out into this world, remember it could go viral!

Let the high road win, this and every time of year … pass it on!

With love this season,




Happy Merry Everything to you…

Happy Merry Everything to you…

After listening to the news of a dear friend really struggling at this time of year, and some news I was aware of another colleague who was deeply depressed, it became pretty apparent what I wanted to share with you at this intense time of year.

This time of year can be so beautiful and yet it can also be challenging as there are several coinciding significant events.

1. The Winter Solstice: which is an opportunity to look at our choices, restart, and go within to remember ourselves as we move into the next major phase of the year.

2. A major figure’s birthday: Jeshuah represents compassion and forgiveness in the world, Christ consciousness being about unconditional love.

3. The End of a Yearly Cycle and the Beginning of a New One: These combined focus points allow us access to the love needed to move through just about anything, if we so choose.

At the same time, everything that is incomplete, ready to be transmuted, or unnecessary for the year to come will surely reveal itself.

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When things change…

When things change…

Well, my old backpack died after 13 years of climbing mountains, going to swim with dolphins, and chasing rainbows in Hawaii. It’s the beige backpack. I’m thinking of all the people whom we’ve taken on Wide Awakening Adventures and program trips (including you!)

Honestly, letting it go was hard as I happily remembered being with Cathy in Bimini, Vikki in Italy, Nika in Asheville, Amy in Abaco, Jenny in Uxbridge, and so many more special moments. That backpack was a constant companion for all of it. When I threw it in the trash, I really felt I should have a ceremony, SO I DID!

It feels like everything is up to leave this year … clearing the decks with the Winter Solstice, Jeshua’s birthday coming, New Year celebrations, and all.

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We have beliefs about money (we all do)…

We have beliefs about money (we all do)…

This week I’m feeling called to share with you an excerpt from my #1 international best-selling book: UNSTUCK: The Physics of Getting Out of Your Own Way

Chapter 4: Financial Expansiveness: What It Takes To Truly Thrive…

“The truth is that your natural state is one of abundance. I’m sure that you might respond to that statement by saying, “If it’s true that my natural state is abundance, how come it’s not reflected in my checkbook?”

I would counter that you are already abundant. Unfortunately, if this area of your life is an issue, the part of you that doesn’t want to acknowledge how abundant you really are is trying to train your brain to collect evidence to the contrary.

Why would it do that? Well, it’s dangerous to have money. People like me don’t have money. Tall poppies get their heads chopped off. It’s more virtuous not to have money. It doesn’t matter if we figure it out because we are probably only figuring it out from the perspective that we are broken.

Somehow, we operate under the flawed premise that knowing why we are broken might fix us. Right? See how it works?

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