The cost of being right!

Picture Credits – Jeannie Selda

“The issue is never the issue …
that you make it the issue, is the issue.

Jennifer Hough

Recently, while on a flight, I had a great discussion with a lovely woman whose perspective on life is very different from mine. In short, she suffers a lot and is angry most of the time. The perceived reasons for her upset are all outside herself and, although she tried super hard to convince me it was because of all the messed up people out there, alas, she didn’t win!

As you may know, I’m a relentless champion of deeper truths and higher conversations and, at this time of year, I thought I’d share this as you, or your friends, may need to hear it.

The Cost of Being Right

  • Be aware, others may no longer listen to you because it feels as though you’ve placed yourself above them, separating yourself from them.
  • You may shut down the space in which someone shares information which helps you better understand the situation.
  • Potentially sacrificing intimacy on every level.

The Benefits of Seeking to Understand Before You Seek to Be Understood

  • You show respect and interest in who they are and their position.
  • Allow the space for an intelligent and co-creative exchange.
  • You exemplify a different way of communicating which may impact how the other person chooses to communicate.

These simple things can change the world.

We are all Agents of Awakening and members of the Heaven on Earth Construction Crew!

Whether you’re a company president, a team leader, a dad, a teenager or a visionary of something world changing – or maybe all of them! – please be vigilant about what you’re sending out into this world, remember it could go viral!

Let the high road win, this and every time of year … pass it on!

With love this season,




Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Should we only do things that ‘feel good’?

Well, you might be surprised to hear me say absolutely not.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not about deliberately forcing ourselves to do things that feel awful.

It’s just that I hear so many people saying… “only do it if it feels good”.

Here’s the issue with that:

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Fear does an interesting thing to our brains

Fear does an interesting thing to our brains

Fear does an interesting thing to our brains.

I was listening to a brilliant podcast a few days ago which my husband reminded me about. Although they didn’t talk about this specifically, it struck me how important it is to understand how our brains work. In understanding this, I’m able to follow my knowing and feel connected to clarity, instead of being manipulated by noise which can only happen if I’m in fear; it’s so easy to be in fear these days, don’t you think?

Fight or flight creates an interesting shift in the brain causing us to relate to those who disagree with our viewpoint as the “other”, and there are those who want to manipulate others in order to protect themselves.

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The key to thriving is…

The key to thriving is…

A key to thriving is remembering that doing this is actually important.

It’s ‘nothing’.

That’s the thing, doing nothing is doing something.I’m sure you’ve sometimes tried to keep pushing through a project when life is showing you the harder and longer you push, the more unproductive things get, right?

I’m so guilty of feeling invincible or, put another way, stubbornly carrying on instead of being present to what life is showing, or sometimes commanding, me to do.

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