Love for yourself, and for those you love.


“Just because you’re there for others doesn’t mean you are
necessarily helping them. It depends on whether you’re giving
from your overflow and your inspiration,
or you are ‘carrying’ them.

Jennifer Hough


READY OR NOT, HERE’S A LITTLE TREE SHAKE THIS MORNING…

I had a client ask me recently, “When are all these challenges and triggers going to end so we can get back to normal?” Newsflash! This is our new normal. So much change continues being catalyzed, and if you get into emergency mode, it is easy to want to protect yourself and others, to hide, to “carry” your family, those you love, or even yourself.

Here’s something to consider this morning: Just because you’re there for others, doesn’t mean you are necessarily helping them. It depends on whether you’re giving from your overflow and your inspiration, or you are “carrying” them. It may even be that you’re not authentically trying to help them; maybe, just maybe, you’re trying to make your own self feel better because you don’t like the way they’re being or behaving.

I have most certainly carried people I care about at some point in my life. It’s as though I thought I had the power to make someone else happy. It is so clear to me at this point that no one can make anyone else happy. In fact, trying to do that can leave the other person(s) powerless to do it for themselves.

I used to try to do that with many friends, partners, my stepdaughter, and my now sweetie.

Eventually, the people we love will have to break away to reset the relationship because, inside each of us, we innately know that true, authentic fulfillment can’t be dependent on someone else.

Here’s a video excerpt from one of our recent Wings Mastermind calls, where we did an Activation all about that kind of love for yourself and others, and we want to share it with You! LISTEN HERE >>>

With love,
Jennifer
xoxoxo


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