What if other people seem to be affecting your flow? Can you change them?

From the Wide Awakening Weekly

“It is not the other person that is bothering you… it is your expectation that they should be other than they are.” ~ Jennifer Hough (Tweetable)

I was reminded in a workshop recently that oftentimes we are attached to an expectation, and we measure others against that expectation. What if we only attach to expectations to increase the perceived likelihood that we will be safe if others meet them? What if someone meeting our expectations will not make us more safe or secure?

Isn’t it our ego that attaches to ideas that someone should change to make us happier or behave differently so that we won’t be unhappy? The Universe made all of us free to choose, free to be around those we choose and also free to make a difference instead of feeling like a victim. That can look many ways.

How about, instead, we live in the wonder of who people are? That way, life remains an adventure and others are free to hold themselves to their own magnificence.

With Love,

Jennifer xoxoxo

P.S. OMGosh! What are we gonna do with all this extra time, now that we’re not waiting for everyone to change?

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