“When we say, ‘I trust you,’ do we mean ‘I expect you to do what I have been trained to think is right and, if you don’t, I’m going to be really upset?’ Better to dance with everyone exactly as they are, than to trust
anyone to be as you wish they were.”
~ Jennifer Hough
Have you ever truly had the opportunity to love someone without conditions? Isn’t it easier to do if the other person meets all of your check marks, and doesn’t trigger any safety issues? Good luck finding that person!
I can tell you from first-hand experience, “trusting” someone is the booby prize. “WHAT?”, you say? Listen, you can either trust another person to be who you want them to be, or you can simply honour where they are on their journey, and do exactly what is in perfect alignment in that place.
Heaven on Earth (and in your life) is created by operating with people from where they are, not where you wish they would be. But, you are going to have to heal all those “buttons” to have that happen.
It’s a dance, my friend… and it has nothing to do with comfort; it has to do with being able to be yourself, no matter what. You win, and everyone else does, too.
I love you no matter what… I mean it.
P.S. It isn’t that you have to be perfect to be free. It’s that you are free, and you are perfect (just the way you are), and you still might bug a few people.